Workshop on Non-Violence Part 1


1. At the start of the meeting have a poster-board and pens in the front of the room that says "Remember these victims of violence". Have those that want to sign the name of someone they want to remember sign the poster-board.

2. Welcome
Introductions all around
Moment of silence
3. Here are some basic agreements we hope everyone will follow. (Should be written on the poster-board.)
a) Everything said in the room stays in the room. We don't repeat anything said outside the group with out permission from the person who said it.
b) We don't "dis" each other.
c) When we talking or doing something each person has the right to pass.
d) Each of us speaks for ourselves.
e) Each of us will listen to everyone else.
f) Each of us speaks-one at a time.
4. Introduction
Leader: Again I'm ____________________. I worked with Kids Meeting Kids for a while now, Kids Meeting Kids has been working to try to see that no one gets treated unfairly or gets messed up in this world. I think we all can agree that a lot of bad things have been happening. Does anyone have an example?
Start the discussion by talking about what violent things have been happening on the news or in the neighborhood.
5. Violence happens must often because people want power.
Who has more power?
Adults or youth
Men or women
White European Americans or people of color
Poor or rich
Elders or adults
#@$%sexuals or heterosexuals
People with disabilities or people without disabilities
Boss or worker
People who are called "normal" or those called crazy
Over weight people or thin people
Student or teacher

In each category, one group has more power than the other. This does not mean that "non-power" groups are always powerless; it means that society creates conditions that give them less power than the other group. Very often non-power groups are targeted for violence.
a) What violence do adults do to kids?
b) Men to women?
c) Rich people to poor people?
d) People who don't have mental or emotional problems to those considered "crazy" or "drunks" or "junkies".
e) Majority to minority groups.
6. Let's look at some of the ways we have come to think about who we are.
Think about this. Is there something you want to talk about?
Let them know that it is not mandatory for them to answer the questions. Stop at every five questions to see if they want to make a comment or share a story.
a) Have you ever felt ashamed of your race, religion, family or who you might become?
b) Have you ever worried you were not tough enough?
c) Have you ever exercised to make yourself tougher?
d) Have you ever been forced to fight, or were in a fight because you felt you had to prove you were tough?
e) Were you ever told not to cry?
f) Were you ever hit to make you stop crying?
g) Have you ever been called a #@$%, #@$% or #@$%?
h) If you are a male, have you ever stopped yourself from hugging or touching another man because of how it might look or for fear to be called a #@$%sexual?
i) Have you ever been told to act like a man or woman?
j) If you are a male, have you ever been hit by an older man?

k) Have you ever seen an adult man hit or emotionally brutalize a woman, or vice versa?
l) Have you ever been physically injured by another person?
m) Have you ever been physically injured, and hid the pain, or kept it to yourself?
n) Have you ever drank or took other drugs to cover your feelings or hide pain?
o) Have you ever been sexually touched in a way you didn't like by an older person?
p) Have you ever been wounded by a knife or gun?
q) Have you ever hurt another person physically?
r) Have you ever hurt another person sexually or were sexual with another person when they didn't want to be?

What do you think this has to do with power, non-power, oppression and violence?